"While there aren’t any hard statistics on female infidelity, most experts agree that it’s on the rise, especially among women who have their own careers and a degree of financial independence."

— In which a dude who runs a website called “Good in Bed” announces that female infidelity is “on the rise,” without a single statistic to back it up. (Make sure to check out the “signs” your wife is cheating on you, like when she “dresses up for work” or “prioritizes parenting and neglects a couple’s relationship.”)

(Source: newsweek)

Today in Awful Statistics: Women in the Military More Likely to be Raped by Fellow Soldiers than Kiled in Combat

That sexism and misogyny is still rampant in the military is not in itself surprising, but we were shocked to discover just how bad it is:

“There are three types of women in the Army,” says Rebecca Havrilla, a former sergeant and explosive-ordnance-disposal technician. “Bitch, dyke, and whore.” During the four years that Havrilla was on active duty, she was called all three—by fellow soldiers, team leaders, even unit commanders. Once, during a sexual-assault prevention training, the 28-year-old South Carolina native claims, she watched a fellow soldier—male—strip naked and dance on top of a table as the rest of the team laughed. While deployed in Afghanistan, Havrilla spent four months working under a man she alleges bit her neck, pulled her into his bed, and grabbed her butt and waist—on a daily basis. When, on the last day of her deployment, she alleges she was raped by a soldier she considered a friend, it was, she says, “the icing on the cake.”

Havrilla and 16 others filed a lawsuit yesterday charging none other than Def. Sec.’s Robert Gates and his predecessor Don Rumsfeld with violating their Constitutional rights by failing to deal with the problem in any substantial way. Turns out, the military is above the law—literally—when it comes to sexual harassment and workplace equality:

“For lots of reasonable historical bases, the military has a level of civil immunity in our society which is quite high,” investigator Rohman says. “There’s a downside to that: their lack of external accountability means that they have not had to adjust in the way the rest of society has.” In particular, a 1950 Supreme Court ruling, known as the Feres Doctrine, places the military beyond the reach of workplace laws regarding sexual discrimination and sexual harassment. To make matters worse, charges are usually investigated within the immediate chain of command. “There’s no investigatory training. They don’t tell you to look for evidence,” says Greg Jacob, who spent 10 years in the Marines and rose to the rank of captain. Instead, they hand over a manual for courts martial, which explains, among other things, that the investigating officer should consider, first and foremost, “the character and military service of the accused.” Jacob says that essentially means weighing each soldier’s past and future value to the unit.

Catch that part? It’s the equivalent of being raped by a coworker, and having your boss decide who’s right and who’s wrong simply by deciding which one of you is worth more to him. Horrifying. Read the rest.

Today in How on Earth Does This Guy Still Have A Job? The Congressional Edition. Feat: Brad Peck

We’ve been on vacation, so have been merrily holding our fingers in our ears pretending not to hear the brouhaha down in D.C. over Brad Peck’s lovely little blog post last week about the gender wage gap and why it’s our own damn fault for insisting on having damn babies all the damn time. Today, with a big sigh, we finally looked at it more closely, specifically to see if he had, in fact, apologized, as was reported.

Well hello total non-apology apology!:

The post was unclear in its message and I would like to apologize to those for whom it has caused offense.

We’re sorry we were offended, too, Mr. Peck. Really. Cause you’re toooootally right. Equal pay for equal work is definitely more about our Scrooge-like fetish for money than, you know, justice.

-jesse

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Today in We’ve Heard This Before… WaPo Says: Good News! But Hold the Applause

You know, we’re getting a little tired of holding the applause. The Washington Post today reports on yesterday’s census numbers and reading it is like an emotional roller-coaster! Seriously. It’s all “Good news! But wait not so fast cause bad news too. However, also, good news!” And so on. It’s exhausting.

Anyway, the good news!:

In the years preceding the recession, the ranks of minority and female entrepreneurs exploded, according to census statistics released Tuesday. By 2007, minorities owned one in five small U.S. businesses, and women owned almost one in three.

The bad:

But even as the statistics were released, they were eclipsed by the recession that started in December 2007, leading economists to wonder whether the downturn will reverse much of the progress.

The good!:

A study published last year by the Guardian Life Small Business Research Institute projected that small businesses run by women will create one-third of all new jobs.

The bad:

However, the challenges and inequities many minorities and women face in business remain formidable.

And the AWESOME:

More women are starting firms in nontraditional fields; they own about 11 percent of construction firms, for instance.

Melissa Schneider and Amber Peebles, both former Marines, have 12 employees at their Dumfries firm, the Athena Construction Group. Schneider started the company in 2003 to do home remodeling after sensing that she was bumping up against a glass ceiling at the international technology firm where she was a network operations manager … Neither regrets branching out in such a severe downturn.

Big ups to these ladies, for starters. We really wish we’d had a female contractor when we went through renovations, cause our contractor was a cocky little shit.

Anyway, despite all the caveats, these numbers are a big deal. Will they change the working world? We’ll see.

-Jesse

Turns Out, Men Get Ahead Cause They’re Just Plain Smarter, Says Creepy UK Prof

In a newspaper article last month, Susan Greenfield, one of Britain’s best-known female scientists, bemoaned the lack of female science professors in the UK. Which prompted Richard Lynn, a retired psychology professor and possessor of crazy-ass thoughts, to ask, in last week’s Daily Mail, Is there really a glass ceiling? To which he quickly answered his own question: No (or is it yes?), because—wait for it—men are just, well, smarter. He writes:

Not only is the average man more intelligent than the average woman, but a clear and startling imbalance emerges between the sexes at the high levels of intelligence that the most demanding jobs require. For instance, at the near-genius level (an IQ of 145), brilliant men outnumber brilliant women by 8 to one. That’s statistics, not sexism.

All of that brilliance, Lynn continues, goes a long way toward explaining why, in almost 110 years of Nobel Prize history, only two women have ever won the Prize for physics, only four have won the Prize for chemistry and why no women have ever won the Fields Medal for mathematics “in eight decades of trying.”

He goes on to explain what he “means” by intelligence, why men have emerged as “the more intelligent sex,” why we can’t exactly explain this, and, oh—why, when it comes to verbal intelligence, women are actually smarter than men! (Because of our nonstop gabbing, of course.)

In our hunter-gatherer past, women needed verbal abilities to negotiate their relationships with both men and women and to teach and socialise their children.

Now, before we throw up all over ourselves (and we’re only halfway through the column), we should note that this is this Richard Lynn, eugenicist, and that the Daily Mail is, well, the British equivalent of the New York Post. Still, as the ladies over at Femonomics put it:

The fact that Richard Lynn can still call himself a scientist, and his theories and the evidence he provides to back them up can be thought of as scientific, is an embarrassment to every real scientist out there, and to those of us working our tails off to put the letters P, H, and D after our names.

We don’t have P, H, or Ds after our names, but we’ll leave you with this choice quote, care of Feministing, from the lovely Richard Lynn:

“What is called for here is not genocide, the killing off of the population of incompetent cultures. But we do need to think realistically in terms of the ‘phasing out’ of such peoples…. Evolutionary progress means the extinction of the less competent. To think otherwise is mere sentimentality.”

Really, Michael Savage? Kagan “Looks Like She Belongs in a Kosher Deli”?

We probably shouldn’t be surprised by this, (or for that matter this) but really, Michael Savage? Amid the media obsession over Elena Kagan’s sexuality (thanks, Eliot Spitzer, for clarifying that you “did not go out with her”), Savage took it to a new level on Monday, saying that he finds the Supreme Court nominee’s appearance “personally grotesque,” playing off his gem-of-a-quote last month that she “looks like she belongs in a kosher deli.” “Let’s put it to you this way,” Savage said on his April 9 program, “she’s not the type of face you’d want to see on a five dollar bill.”

And, there you have it. Forget whether she’d be good at the actual, you know, job. All that matters is whether she’s attractive. Mr. Savage, if men were judged on their appearance the way women are judged on ours, what do you think would be said about you? Because frankly, that leather jacket-hoodie combo is really creeping us out.

Return of the (Ok, Not at All Daily) Dose of Douchebaggery!

Aaaaand we’re back with a bang! In the form of an awesomely grandiloquent letter from Darryl Edwards to the Columbia Daily Tribune. We have no clue what he’s writing in about, but the title alone (Nanny state feeds on teat of women’s lib) is so great that it doesn’t even matter. It’s long, but it’s worth it. Herewith, our new favorite sad guy, and our interpretation of his flowing prose:

Why is our country swamped under the drowning flow of red ink as marked by our bulging national debt, our palladium of civic manners debauched by bullying indecency, our disposable income dwarfed by higher tax rates, frozen wages and the ballooning cost of living, and our society steeped in a stupor of despair to remedy these problems?

(Ed: why does everything suck so much right now?)

Solutions to national interest require virtuous, intrepid men to trailblaze a pathway to recovery from the shambles of mismanagement. The industrious and valorous men of our founding generation are churning in their graves at the lurid sight of simpering male misfits.

(Ed: because men are not MEN!)

The germ that spawned this pusillanimous debility must be laid squarely in the lap of our female cohort. Through slow, stealthy degrees, they have beguiled the male population to offer them equal rights; in that wake appeared the problems we now experience. This sneaky, confederate rise to power has unequivocally dashed the dominion of male-dominated sovereignty and replaced this imperial rite with androgynous misrule of nanny-state defeatism.

(Ed: gender equality turned us all into a bunch of pussies!)

Their insidious agenda has brought on the social rot that now afflicts our civilization. This furtive conspiracy of misandry has produced a male brood of pandering, milquetoast hermaphrodites.

(Ed: literally!)

The roaring flare of lusty, rugged male individualism has dimmed to a flicker of callow, epicene pushovers. A notable psychiatrist has attributed this social dysfunction to insufficient breastfeeding.

(Ed: our mothers really f-ed us up.)

It’s past time for men to stand up and exert their sacerdotal privilege of domestic rule and begin the remodeling of our grand “city on a hill!”

(Ed: we had to look up “sacerdotal” and turns out it means priestly. um, ironic!)

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Tales from the Frontlines: ‘I’ll Have a Waitress With Nothing on It.’

Today in reader-submitted stories, from a 23-year-old teacher in northeast Indiana:

When I was 15 years old, I worked at a tiny, local restaurant. I had only worked there about a week when I went to take a customer’s order at the drive-up window. When I asked the man what he wanted, he looked me right in the eye and said, “I’ll have a waitress with nothing on it.”

I didn’t know what to say or do, so I just stood and looked at him. He immediately got defensive, “It was just a joke!”

No, asshole, it was NOT just a joke.

I don’t know which aspect of how wrong that statement was made me the most angry. Was it that he treated women as just a consumable commodity, even going so far as to use the pronoun “it”? Was it the fact that I was only 15, and looked only 15, when he said this to me? Was it the fact that there was small boy sitting next to him in the car, learning how to treat women and food service workers as things? Was it that he acted self-righteous because it was sooo my fault that I couldn’t take a joke that would have made him not only disgusting, but also a sex offender? Was it the fact that when I told my boss, he laughed? Or, was it because I had no idea what to say back to him?

I should have screamed the preceding paragraph. I should have taken his license plate number and reported him to the police. I should have refused to serve him. I didn’t. I made his ice cream.

No one will ever treat me like that again.

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Daily (Not Really Daily) Dose of Douchebaggery

Some awesome dude, in response to Jessica Valenti’s recent WashPost column, “For Women In America, Equality is Still an Illusion.“ 

“MAFIA, Men Against Feminist’s In America, is taking applications. We must counter the lies of the NOW, NARAL and Planned UnParents in the Hoods adherents. Women have become the spoiled class of liars…I have served globally and can say with authority that U.S. females are becoming a threat that will have to be dealt with legislatively if the record is to be set straight. Unfeminine feminist’s are liars; Jessica is your typical VICTIM. Sickening dribble from a fem spoiled liar.”

In the Words of Our Editor: “What a Sad, Sad Asshole”

We were going to make this the daily dose of douchebaggery, but there’s something just so sad about this guy who commented on Andrew Sullivan’s item (the full comment is crazy long and sort of nonsensical, so go to the Daily Dish to read it all). Here’s the gist:

Call me a misogynist asshole … but while women have a lot of avenues to address potential earnings gaps, men like me have no means to seek recompense for the emotional toll taken out on us by the expected focus on our careers.
I get sick and tired of women who want to treat the workplace as somehow separate from other parts of life. There seems to be an attitude of: “I’m going to party all through my twenties while I’m young and hot, then have a family and be a mom and have a full-time career as well, and I’m owed a dollar for every dollar anyone else makes, regardless of the priorities each of us has set up until this point in our lives.” That ain’t life.
That’s how I, as a man born in the mid-eighties - long after the high-water mark of sexual discrimination - perceive much of what passes for feminism these days. It’s an excuse that women have that men don’t. I’m forced into a box (the “earn lots of money” box) just as much as a woman is (the “have a family” box), but women are given tons of sympathy for the things they miss out on.
I’m not given any sympathy at all. Instead, to the extent that I can even bring myself to talk about my personal problems, I’m thought of as a loser for not having (or wanting to have) casual sex with multiple partners. I’m somehow inadequate. And you know what? I FEEL inadequate. I just don’t have anyone to officially blame for it.

We quibble with a couple of sad guy’s points. (For starters, feminism is not an “excuse.” Maybe he’s confusing it with sexism?) That said, guy makes a good point: we are all boxed in to a certain extent, and we all are forced to make sacrifices. Are those sacrifices different for men and women? Probably. Are they slightly worse for women? Well, as another Sullivan reader notes:

Contrary to his assertion that women treat the workplace as separate from life, I think many women of my generation already see that the two are fully intertwined, and it is nearly impossible to optimize for happiness, or even more “success” by any traditional definition, in both.

But is there a solution? Can anyone really have it all?

Today in Douchey (But Kind of Amazing) Comments

From our Newsweek story on women and the workplace:

“The truth is no matter how much I respect my female co-workers I eventually think about putting my hands on their chest whenever I talk to them. I don’t think I’m alone here on this point. And female bosses, I constantly think about having sex with them.”

Daily Dose of Douchebaggery

Pathetic articles like this, says a Newsweek commenter, only reinforce the perception amongst the public that Feminists are a bunch of nut jobs and morons, incapable of any logical analysis or absorbing facts.